Comments on: Important communication skills

Important communication skills

Brandon Blatcher — Wed, 15 May 2013 14:55:53 -0800

Use "Metatalk" skill to discuss communication problems.

By: Artw

Artw — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:01:19 -0800

Your relationship is doomed.

By: crayz

crayz — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:01:26 -0800

Metatalk: this communication is too slow for me to pay attention to

By: Ghostride The Whip

Ghostride The Whip — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:03:32 -0800

So we flame each other until derailed by injokes? Actually that's pretty much how the wife and I communicate.

By: Mad_Carew

Mad_Carew — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:04:25 -0800

I have level 3 Metatalk skills. How many plusses does that get me?

By: joelf

joelf — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:06:34 -0800

Blah blah blah blah...

By: The Whelk

The Whelk — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:07:24 -0800

I cast MetaTalkaga!

By: radwolf76

radwolf76 — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:07:54 -0800

I have level 3 Metatalk skills. How many plusses does that get me? That depends, how many ranks did you take in Snark? You may get the synergy bonus.

By: Blasdelb

Blasdelb — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:08:30 -0800

I have two questions, do Psychology departments have boxes for these guys, and can I subscribe to their newsletters?

By: Kabanos

Kabanos — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:18:06 -0800

So we've all been using the wrong awareness bubble?

By: idiopath

idiopath — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:18:31 -0800

Blasdelb: this guy sounds like he is a therapist referencing the second order cybernetics variant of systems theory. Not exactly mainstream, but it is its own thing and not something this guy invented (and if you think cybernetics is crackpot, start with Mead, Bateson, Maturana, Von Foerster, not this guy).

By: Blasdelb

Blasdelb — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:18:52 -0800

"E stands for Emotion. Our emotions, as you know, go up and down moment by moment. When your emotions are metaphorically above your ears, when you have intense emotions, often that interferes with your ability to hear. So its important to pay attention to, in important conversations, WHERE IS YOUR E LEVEL! *points finger* Is it below the ears? Meaning, can you hear me? or is it above your ears, where your hearing is impaired?" I just want to pause for a moment and give thanks to God that I am not married to this man.

By: spitbull

spitbull — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:20:33 -0800

Life could suck worse. This dude could be your therapist.

By: Apropos of Something

Apropos of Something — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:23:35 -0800

This belongs in MetaMetaTalk.

By: bicyclefish

bicyclefish — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:25:11 -0800

"One of these skills is called meta-talk. You might say, well, that's that? Meta-writing is writing about writing. Meta-dancing is dancing about dancing." This does not illuminate the concept.

By: Blasdelb

Blasdelb — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:26:07 -0800

I want to stop listening, but I can't help myself, there are too many unanswered questions. Is E level really something idiosyncratic to him, what is this dude smoking, if I could find it would I want some, WHY IS THERE A COCK TAG?

By: hamandcheese

hamandcheese — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:27:19 -0800

Needs more tags.

By: spitbull

spitbull — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:31:13 -0800

Needs more drugs.

By: Blasdelb

Blasdelb — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:36:02 -0800

"A meta comment might sound like: You know Lucy I have a feeling that your E leel is above your ears, that is a meta comment, no criticism - no problem solving, its information. See?" Oh god this bastard would fit in perfectly here.

By: twoleftfeet

twoleftfeet — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:38:18 -0800

Take it to MetaTalk. Alphabet game, anyone?

By: billiebee

billiebee — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:51:38 -0800

If he's found stabbed just above the ear his partner can show this to the judge.

By: coolxcool=rad

coolxcool=rad — Wed, 15 May 2013 15:56:18 -0800

I wasn't comfortable with his use of "variable" when applied to the use of eye contact.

By: Mooski

Mooski — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:04:46 -0800

Listening to him reminded me a bit much of Eckhart Tolle. Now I feel like I need to take amphetamines to get back to normal.

By: randomkeystrike

randomkeystrike — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:05:15 -0800

The fact that he's wearing a t-shirt and appears to be sitting in a hospital room gives off less of a psychotherapist vibe and more a plain old psycho vibe.

By: thinkpiece

thinkpiece — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:06:59 -0800

I wasn't comfortable with his t-shirt.

By: thinkpiece

thinkpiece — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:07:54 -0800

randomkeystrike!! holla!

By: idiopath

idiopath — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:09:16 -0800

Mooski: "Listening to him reminded me a bit much of Eckhart Tolle" Not a coincidence I don't think, Tolle is also heavily influenced by post-Bateson systems psychology. But anyway, who cares about the content, this is just a point and laugh post.

By: coolxcool=rad

coolxcool=rad — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:13:08 -0800

But anyway, who cares about the content, this is just a point and laugh post. Yeah, I thought it was going to be deleted as well. But thanks for the link on systems psychology.

By: jfuller

jfuller — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:15:09 -0800

> if you think cybernetics is crackpot, start with Mead, Bateson, Maturana, Von Foerster, not this guy Why not Norbert Weiner?

By: coolxcool=rad

coolxcool=rad — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:16:25 -0800

Yuck. Mostly garbage . +(

By: idiopath

idiopath — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:18:44 -0800

jfuller: Weiner is first order, he was on good terms with the second order crowd, but there is a definite difference between first and second order (not that I think either are crackpots).

By: phaedon

phaedon — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:20:58 -0800

This is the kind of video you need to watch after spending your entire life playing of World of Warcraft. This is some top shelf living in mom's basement type shit.

By: jonmc

jonmc — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:23:03 -0800

*cough*

By: KokuRyu

KokuRyu — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:33:24 -0800

Why is he making his video on a hospital bed?

By: twoleftfeet

twoleftfeet — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:34:36 -0800

Alphabet game, anyone? The game is on! Thanks, Brandon.

By: spitbull

spitbull — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:35:54 -0800

He is a professional communicator. Some respect please.

By: orange swan

orange swan — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:37:30 -0800

Shouldn't a professional communicator be able to say things in such a way that I want to listen to them?

By: spitbull

spitbull — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:39:50 -0800

The guy's other videos are even more obviously made in a hospital room. No question about it. I am not so sure this needs to be on Metafilter all of a sudden.

By: spitbull

spitbull — Wed, 15 May 2013 16:42:43 -0800

But since it's staying up, more context: Mr. Gerlach has a website at sfhelp.org You click the little welcome mat to find the content. It's very GeoCities 2001.

By: alms

alms — Wed, 15 May 2013 17:02:27 -0800

I love that most of the recommended videos going along with this one are Caillou. They really do go together well.

By: Edna Million

Edna Million — Wed, 15 May 2013 17:12:30 -0800

Yikes. Not interesting enough to put up with that whistling noise he makes when he talks. It was like nails on a chalkboard after a while. (I just realized how close the time is when most kids won't know what that sounds like!)

By: St. Alia of the Bunnies

St. Alia of the Bunnies — Wed, 15 May 2013 17:39:21 -0800

This guy reminds me of the husband of an occasional employee where I work. He is megasmart but sounds and looks almost just like this guy. He's not a therapist or I would have SWORN it was the same dude. And, yeah.

By: mkultra

mkultra — Wed, 15 May 2013 19:07:10 -0800

Metatalk

By: lordaych

lordaych — Wed, 15 May 2013 20:33:55 -0800

Ha, I stumbled onto this recently by lazily trying to load metatalk from a tablet. I was confuse and stone

By: PeterMcDermott

PeterMcDermott — Wed, 15 May 2013 21:40:30 -0800

Shouldn't a professional communicator be able to say things in such a way that I want to listen to them? He needs to see a therapist. A family systems therapist, perhaps...

By: Obscure Reference

Obscure Reference — Thu, 16 May 2013 06:04:50 -0800

The guy is 70+ years old, so, yeah, he looks a little decrepit, but as a person of ageness, I feel a need to defend him, even though he says he "evolved" his "system." How many 70-year-olds can use youtube anyway? I suspect he had some young people helping him but that's because I'm a self-hating age-ist pig.

By: croutonsupafreak

croutonsupafreak — Thu, 16 May 2013 19:24:53 -0800

On the one hand, this guy has a culturally limited view of how humans should interact and is so in love with jargon that even if he had a point he wouldn't be able to get it across. On the other hand, I like the image of emotions hovering above or below the ears.